Blinky you’ve gone in pretty hard an accusatory here.
It’s just a discussion.
Some people are in a position of public power with their status, some people are in social circles, coming out publicly can help enforce a culture which accepts our sexualities, I don’t get what you’re so defensive against, people coming out or making a big deal about it or what? Yeah I am assuming about you; because from your posts and your attitude it’s pretty blatantly obvious that you haven’t experienced things that you discuss or you wouldn’t have those opinions.
People can empower themselves in any way they want, and if that’s by coming out publicity then that’s fucking dope. That’s not your place to say- if you haven’t experienced similar trauma then you just can’t equate your understanding. You can be empathetic but why do you have to have it handed to you on a plate? I’m not having a go at anyone but the fact we even need to defend things like ‘coming out’ is pretty fucked.
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I’m not having a go at anyone but there are a lot of underlying prejudices on this forum, and this is a place for discussion! I’m not worked up about it, but there are so many comments that get posted on here that remind me of the ‘pissed uncle at a party’ comments
Butt hurt cis dudes? Come on man.
We’re talking about how to make skate competitions more equal.
It’s not about a group of people tho is it; is about individuals and individual learned experience. And the queer community can only benefit from public support
This forum does have comments though which I would argue are related to white butt hurt cis dudes getting offended at trivial issues about race gender and sexuality though. Not a lot but it’s here.
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737 words in the space of about 20 minutes says otherwise 
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Lol I just like to make myself clear haha
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Telling other well intentioned people how they should think or behave is my issue, go at the real bigots by all means; people openly hating, people using religion as an excuse to marginalise, the media promoting stereotypes and that sort of person. I’m not sure I’ve seen anything close to that in this discussion.
Wow that’s quite some high horse you’re on.
Cool man. I would say the same about your refusal to see any underlying prejudice you have. You seem pretty confident and high horse about your opinions on how the queer community can and can’t behave or what they can be upset about. If you’re queer that’s cool and I’m wrong but…
The well intentioned bit is pretty much my main point of discussion too- I don’t think anyone is homophobic. But if you’re not gay then you can’t comment on how the queer community is represented or tell people what to do.
Just because you’re not homophobic doesn’t mean you have to go on the defence when someone suggests how to be an even better ally.
I wouldn’t go straight to using the word prejudice for something like this. For a lot of people because of various factors unless you live in a major urban area you probably haven’t seen many if any queer people openly showing affection. Just by seeing something and it being different shouldn’t be labelled as prejudice at all. I don’t strictly agree with the rest of what ihatethegeneralpublic is saying but I think he’s right when he said it comes down to how you process it.
A lot of stuff takes a long time for people to ‘normalise’ in their mind and it isn’t just a case of suddenly not noticing these things. If someone from a small community sees two men holding hands and being affectionate in public it is in their instinct to ‘notice’ it. The same way that you’d notice if someone was having a fight in the street or a new shop opened at the end of your road. Not to trivialise things here but it is human nature to spot things we aren’t used to.
Prejudice is the wrong word to use here, it instantly has negative connotations
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Yeah I agree with you lots there Haven! I think though most of what you said is my argument. Whether you like the word prejudice or not, I think is does apply but it also does have negative connotations yeah, its not conscious, it’s underlying and a product of your environment. If you notice gay people kissing but don’t notice straight people kissing then that is a problem in society, that we still haven’t fully accepted sexuality as fluid. That’s cool and we’re moving on fast, but it’s still. People get so irate about being called privileged if you’re straight, white and male too, but it doesn’t mean you’re not still privileged just cos you get upset about it. I think the issue is that people don’t want to be told they still have stuff to learn.
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Yeah I agree man. Just think the word prejudice you’ve got to be careful with as whilst you might be using it in a slightly different way if someone is called prejudice their immediate thought is they’re bigoted, racist, homophobic etc.
Wow Blinky, while I agree with your ethos and galantry is to be admired you came in like a fucking unwelcomed hero. Why are you getting offended on behalf of other people so hard? Do you consider yourself part of any of the catagories in question? It shouldn’t matter if yes or no.
I agree people need to learn and in time we as humans will learn to appreciate each other more. However, it’s not a case of straight white males needing to learn and everyone else finding their way into their own skin just carries on being themselves. It’s us all that needs to learn. Humans as a whole are cunts, white, black, gay straight trans etc etc etc etc. The cunty part has nothing to do with any of these factors, it’s hereditary personality, influence and life experience that molds our thoughts and opinions.
Stop being a prick and throwing accusations to people who know they’re not perfect but are trying their best and while still retaining personality, opinion and free speech.
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You could say I was triggered just as easily at some lame opinions just as much as I can say others were triggered at being told they have shit to learn. don’t care if people like what I say or not. There are more arrogant and self righteous opinions on here than mine
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Yeah, we all like to get on our high horse but you’re directing yourself at all of us, basically calling out the whole forum for “lame” opinions. I’m just calling you out for being a righteous bellend with unrealistic human goals. We’ll get there in the end mate, don’t you worry, we’ll all get on your level, unless the virus culls all our outdated folk from existence, that should work.
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Not everyone. Saying shit exists isn’t saying it’s applicable to everyone. I said that.
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Name names then, don’t be shy, none of us know who you’re talking about so we all just assume. I can probably safely say that i’ll be in that list ha. Seriously, no beef from me towards you, I actually like your shit on here but a call out is a call out then we move on.
You’re not to be honest. I ain’t gonna name names because the same people get called out over and over and I don’t want to continue this discussion or create more venom towards anyone.
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