Did you get a green letter with yours?
It said on mine would I. like to go on a course. I just ticked the box. But mine is Band B speeding, by 1mph.
Yours is still classed as Band A, so might get the course.
I’m just hoping I get what my step-brother got.
Wife away for 4 days on business, leaving me with the kids. Going to be a hard few days. The evenings are such a battle, 2x bath times and a 3 year old that doesn’t want to go to bed before 9.30, leaves zero downtime for yours truly.
What time do your under 4s go to bed? Trying to convince wife to make it earlier but she is so slammed with work she is in front of laptop till 9 before she’ll put daughter to bed and daughter refuses to be put to bed by me.
Our 2.5ish yr old goes down between 6 and 7 usually, then sleeps till between 6 and 7 (but usually more like 6).
Nearly 3 year old around 7. Fuck 9.30
No naps in the day though.
3.5 year old in bed by 8 and that includes a daily 2 hour nap from 2-4, which also helps with the sanity. Sleeps well enough that we can watch succession at a reasonable level with some wine and a bag sour sweets from 8.30 onwards.
She’s up at around 7am so it’s all kind of OK which makes me feel uneasy as it’s all bound to unravel soon, I think.
All mine go to bed at 7.30 latest, all down perfectly since day one from 3 days of controlled crying. So stoked we managed to instill bedtime routine, it’s a lifesaver. I have them on my own for 5 days or a full week regularly. But yeah, it can be hard, moreso to keep them entertained.
about 8 ish here
Our kids were 7-7.30 for years…gotta have some time to ourselves in the evening plus lots of sleep seems to do em good.
We always stuck to the same routine - eat dinner, let them know how much time they have before bed-time, let them play, let them know I’m going upstairs to get their bedrooms ready and toothbrushes out, go upstairs and spend ten minutes on my phone lying on one of their beds while they play downstairs, call them up, put their pyjamas on, supervise teeth brushing and do teeth checks, make them go to the toilet, get them in bed, tuck them in, read them a story or let them read alone. Always the same. Every day without fail. I would do it on autopilot.
As soon as the routine got messed up…holidays or sleepovers or whatever…nightmare. They go off the rails instantly and the whole next day they’d be a pain.
They’re older now and we still kind of stick to the same routine but a bit later.
Under 4 it was always 7-7:30. And yep, once that routine gets messed up it becomes a pain.
They’re older now, 6 year old is normally asleep by 8:30. 8 year old is struggling but that’s irrelevant here lol
Exactly the same here @nedertron, but mine’s 3 and a half.
20 months old here, and she’s just not into letting me put her to bed anymore. Much to her mum’s dismay.
That’s mums job here. I do the bath before bed which can be funny but also fucking horrible.
I think I was like that. My dad was working deep sea when I was born so he was away for four months at a time until I was a bit older. He’d fucked it by then though.
That’s normal man.
Still fairly often my daughter will wake up crying in the night and resolutely exclaim ‘not daddy!’ when I try to comfort her.
It hurt at first but I’ve come to recognise that me imposing my own adult ego-driven meaning onto half awake child instincts is silly.
Jesus that is horrifying 
Hahaha I get that as well “NOT YOU DADDY, I DON’T WANT YOU”
then last night, as I was cuddling her to sleep in bed “I don’t want you, I just want mama” 
Glad its not just me that gets this stuff. Makes me feel better.
The little one says “I want to go to mummy’s” constantly on the first day of swapover and yeah at first it kinda makes you think in a competitive way but turns out he says the opposite when he’s there so all good.
The Dad role is what you make it I think.
Sister has 29 cysts on her Thyroid.
Shit man. Hope she gets sorted.