Yeah totally, it’s more an experiment to see what level of batshit they really are I suppose.
Never read comments, you can’t right them all, or any.
The only time I bite is on here but it’s between people you kinda half know so it’s more a conversation.
As my grandad said “you can’t educate pork”
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Explains all the gammon
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I always wondered where he got the saying from, anytime I say it people look at me gone out. But I doubt he made it up. How long you reckon Gammon has been used in that way?
Well out raged red faced, balding, overweight 40 year old + white men are not defo a new phenomenon.
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So last night was my last of my four night shift, and I’d booked two days holiday off at the start of next week, and was looking forward to a nice six days off. My birthday’s in the next block of four days at work but shortening the working week made up for it enough that I don’t mind. But last night my boss pulls me aside and asks if I can come in those two days. I’ve got no justifiable reason to refuse him so I just roll over and agree to cancel my holiday days and come in because I know it’s the Christmas period and I know the whole place is going to be a metaphorical dumpster fire, and me being there will make things better for everyone because I’m fucking good at my job and I’m willing to go the extra mile for the company. No big deal, or so I think at the time, I’ll just roll the holidays over to next year’s entitlement and be done with it.
On the other hand it’s totally taken the wind out of my sails. I feel like it’s the last straw of my kindness and willing being taken advantage of. My wife is angry. My shift runs through my birthday, Christmas Day, and New Years over the following three weeks so I’m missing all of those. It’s the sixth Christmas Day out of 8 years working there that I’ll be in the office. I don’t enjoy my job but my colleagues make it slightly above tolerable but this morning I’m right at the point of telling them to stick their job up their arse and just fuck off into the sunset, but I know my wife’s income alone isn’t enough to cover us and I’m far too mentally weak to do anything like that other than in my wildest dreams. I’ve been putting my CV out for the last few months with no positive interest at all, but now I’m going to be far more active with it, but I’m still resigned to the fact that I’m probably going to be working there and miserable until I retire or inevitably die young because that’s what happens to everyone who works a career of night shifts.
I’ve lost two grandparents this year, and two family pets. Life at home is generally pretty good but I’m feeling as close to the end of my tether that I’ve got in a long time.
Sorry for the rant folks, I needed it. It’s not made me feel better but writing down the stream of consciousness felt constructive nonetheless.
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Is your boss someone you could talk to and tell them how you’re feeling? Because you do have a justifiable reason to refuse, you just said it, you’re at the end of your tether.
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@Jurwell it’s 2 days, been a mental year. Take the holiday.
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Yeah, just because you were the guy who’d always agree to a shift change in the past, doesn’t mean it needs to continue. Things have changed loads this years so don’t feel obliged to go the extra mile when you’ve already been going hundreds of extra miles up until now anyway. It’s not like you’re asking to change your contract, you’re just not going to be doing that favour quite so much now.
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Also, don’t be afraid to mention how your mental health has been affected. There was a period over lock down when I was very close to losing it and being signed off, but I was open about it with my line manager and they basically bent over backwards to help me out. Work places can’t really ignore mental health any more, and if yours try and fob you off, or offer false promises, that tells you all you need to know about how they value you and your welfare, and get the fuck out of dodge!
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I was always shat on at royal mail as I had a shitty 15 hour a week contract, therefore I always needed the overtime to make it actually pay a livable wage. I hated the uncertainty of it and I ended up working nearly every weekend. Which sucked my soul away.
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Iv worked jobs where I have he to take not holiday, then you just become that guy for evermore.
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Yeah, everyone is allowed to change their mind. Mention your mental health (pref in an email as well as speaking to him) so it’s on record
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If there’s anybody you can CC too, that’ll help. If you’ve got an HR person or a union rep.
Could just say that your wife went mental when you told her, as she had made plans to meet relatives and that you will need those days off if you want to survive the wrath. No more questions asked.
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yeah, turns out she had a surprise planned for you.
which she may well do, you never know.
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Just come down to my local Pret and witnessed some thievery, two women came in and one of them was carrying a sign which I couldn’t read but presume was for begging, one looked at my table and then the guy next to me but moved on to a table with two women working on laptops, she started some kind of conversation with them and moments later one of their phones was gone! It happened to another person in there as well apparently.
So I’ve been the victim of one theft, stopped an attempted theft months later and now witnessed another! What is going on out there!?!
Good advice on here Jurwell, take it and the two days innit!
Skateboarding now so big, actual brands are being bootlegged.
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